Updated: Nov 23, 2022
We all make excuses so we can get out of doing something we don't want to do. But why do we make them and can they become an unhealthy habit?
Excuses are usually made out of fear: fear of commitment, failure or pain. It is also a way to deflect the responsibility and accountability from yourself by blaming others and life events when things don't go your way.
Here are some self-coaching questions for you to reflect upon and to help you take ownership of your excuses and to start making better choices
What am I trying to avoid and why?
In what way will this excuse move me forward or hold me back?
When I make excuses where am I emotionally?
What am I getting when I make excuses (pity, support, attention)?
Is there a pattern when I make these excuses (people, environment, social situations)?
What do I need to do to feel more secure, empowered and confident?
What do I secretly want to achieve?
What would happen if I refocused my energy and self-belief into what could be possible over what could go wrong?
What do I need to start doing more of to truly believe I am worthy of a better life, job, relationship, health?
How is making excuses really serving me?
“A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.” —John Burroughs
“There are only two options: Make progress or make excuses.” Anonymous
Here is an interesting article on 13 Steps to Stop Making Excuses and Take Responsibility
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